The Myth of doing it all

 Does a woman really do it all? Here’s the truth!

I often like many other working mothers get asked a question that always makes me pause. “How do you do it all?” A mom of an 11-year-old and an infant at 44, working a demanding 9 to 5 job that requires travel, squeezing in workouts, managing home life, and now even stepping into content creation, how do you manage? 

Some people even tell me, “I can’t do half of what you do!” And while I appreciate the sentiment, I also know that what people see on the outside is just a fraction of the reality. 

The Myth of Doing It All

So, let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about what doing it all actually looks like, because the truth is nobody does it all, at least not every day. 

Social media has a way of making things look effortless. You see a well put together mom, smiling kids, a thriving career, home cooked meals, a workout routine, and you think WOW, she’s got it all figured out. But here’s the reality: no one wakes up every morning and ticks off every single thing on their list perfectly. Some days are productive and smooth, and some days are just about getting through. And that’s where the real story lies.

Here’s What It Actually Looks Like for Me 

1. I don’t do everything every day this is the biggest misconception. I don’t wake up at 5 AM, work out, prep perfect meals, be the most attentive mom, crush it at work, create content, and have a spotless home, all in one day. Some things get done, some things wait, and that’s completely okay. 

2. I have help and I’m not doing this alone. I have a nanny to care for my baby when I’m working, and I have a husband who genuinely believes in equal parenting. Not just in the “Oh, I help out when needed” kind of way, but in the “this is our shared responsibility” way. That makes a huge difference. 

3. My older daughter is independent, but she still needs me. At 11, she’s capable of handling many things on her own, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need guidance, attention, and love. I work every day to help her become self-sufficient, but I also remind myself that she’s still a child, and some days, she needs her mom just as much as my baby does. 

4. I plan my work around my husband’s availability Thankfully, my job gives me some flexibility, which means I can coordinate my schedule with my husband’s so that one of us is always present for the kids. I know not everyone has this option, and I don’t take it for granted, but it does require constant planning and adjusting. 

5. Workouts happen when they fit in, or sometimes, they don’t. I try to plan my workouts around my kids’ schedules, not the other way round, but let’s be honest, there are days I miss them. Some days, I don’t feel like leaving my kids. Some days, they just need me more. And then there are days when sports tournaments, school events, or just life takes over, and fitness takes a back seat. And that’s fine.

The goal isn’t perfection; it’s consistency over time

6. Content creation happens in the gaps. This is something new for me, and I love it, but it’s definitely not something I can do every day. I find time for it when the kids are asleep, before they wake up, or sometimes in a stolen 30-minute break during the day. But I’m not churning out content daily, and I’m not pressuring myself to. 

So, can women really have it all? People often ask if women can have it all. And honestly, I don’t think anyone truly does. Because what does having it all even mean? A perfect balance? A life where everything runs smoothly without compromise? That’s not reality. What we can have is a life built around priorities. And those priorities shift every single day. Some days, work takes the lead. Some days, it’s the kids. Some days, it’s health. Some days, it’s just about surviving the chaos. And that’s okay. What works for me might not work for someone else, and what looks effortless from the outside always has layers of effort, struggle, and adjustments underneath. 

Finding balance in the chaos I know this lifestyle isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. I know some people might look at my life and wonder how I juggle it all, and others might think I could never do that. But the truth is, we all make things work in our own way. For me, it’s about waking up each morning and deciding what matters most that day. It’s about knowing that some days will be smooth and productive, while others will feel like an uphill battle. And in the middle of it all, I find my balance not in perfection, but in the choices, I make every single day. So, to anyone who has ever thought Hey, this mom can do it all! Here’s a little peek behind the curtain. It’s not about doing everything. 

It’s about doing what matters, one day at a time.And that? That’s ENOUGH